In the last chapter I spoke of
the effect of mental atmospheres with which people
surround themselves. You will notice that in my
discussion of that part of the subject I spoke
only of the general influence exerted
upon others, and not of the direct personal
influence exerted by one man upon another in
personal intercourse. Let us now consider the
channels of direct personal influence.
As I have told you elsewhere,
every time two people meet there ensues a silent
mental conflict, or struggle for supremacy, from
which one or the other emerges a victor, and which
victory is fully recognized by both of the parties
to the proceeding. This mental struggle is usually
the combat between the general mental powers of
the two, without regard to special mental states
induced at the time.
But the man who is skilled in
the art of dynamic mentation goes further than
this, for he recognizes that he may concentrate
his mentative energy into definite shape and form,
and focus the force of his mental imagery direct
upon the other person, with such force and power
that the second person will feel the dynamic
strength exerted.
This direct personal influence
operates along the lines of both Desire-Force and
Will-Power of course. I have explained elsewhere
how the Will-Power may be used to awaken desire in
another; and how it may also capture the will of
the second person. I have also explained how
Desire-Force induces a similar desire in the
second person; and also how it is often used to
captivate the will of the other person.
It is not necessary for me to
repeat these things--you are supposed to be fully
acquainted with them, from your study of this
book. And so I shall proceed to a consideration of
the channels of expression of personal influence,
and the methods usually employed by those using
it.
The Instruments of
Expression
These channels of influence
may be classified as follows:
1. Suggestive channels,
consisting of (a) the suggestive manner, and (b)
the suggestive tone, and (c) the suggestive word;
2. The instrument of the eye;
3. The instrument of the
touch; and all of these three forms are, of
course, merely the channels or instruments by
which, and through which, the Mind-Power expresses
itself--the channel through which pours the
mentative energy. Let us consider them in the
above order.
In the chapters on "Mental
Suggestion," you will find stated the active
principles of that phase of the subject, with
which you should thoroughly familiarize yourself.
You will see there that
suggestion is the outward symbol of the inward
mental state, and that it is the inner state that
gives vitality to the suggestion. Get this idea
fixed firmly in your mind, and always think of the
force behind the suggestion.
I have explained to you, also,
that when one receives a suggestion through a
physical agent, there is induced in him the mental
state corresponding to the one originating that
physical suggestion. For example, if you feel
yourself filled with confidence, energy and
fearlessness, your outward appearance will reflect
that inner state, and the outer appearance
will become a suggestion to others.
These others will
instinctively feel that your inner state is as I
have stated. And, this being so, a physical
suggestion made stronger than usual will produce a
deeper impression on others than would any
ordinary suggestion.
In view of the above, you will
see why it is that those familiar with the subject
deem it important to cultivate the suggestive
channel instruments.
Beginning with (a) the
suggestive manner, you will see why it is that we
are impressed with the manner of a man who
manifests energy, self-confidence, and power in
every motion. And also, why we have confidence in
a man whose manner indicates that he is a person
used to being trusted by others-- accustomed to
having confidence reposed in him.
And so I might mention
hundreds of examples tending to show that if a
man's manner conveys the impression that he is
used to being treated in a certain way, and that
he is accustomed to acting in a certain way, we
are very apt to accept the suggestion of manner,
and fall into line with the rest of people.
And if the man happens to be a
good actor, we may be imposed upon and fooled by
his suggestive manner.
Not only does this law hold
good in the case of the manner and appearance of
success, strength, confidence, etc., but it also
operates along the lines of the appearance and
manner of failure, weakness, and distrust.
Do you not know of cases
wherein you have felt that certain persons were
not worthy of confidence; or were not to be
depended upon where strength of character was
required; or were not likely to succeed? Of course
you have, and you acted upon the suggestion, too.
In illustrating this point, I
have frequently used the illustration of the two
dogs, the one carrying himself in a manner
betokening self-respect and an ability to prevent
and resent undue liberties, and the other carrying
his tail between his legs, in a manner and
appearance indicating that he expected to be
kicked and cuffed.
The first dog is almost
invariably treated with respect, even by the most
mischievous youngsters; while the second one
almost always invites to himself the kicks, tin
cans and brick bats of the young hoodlums of the
neighborhood. And this illustration is as true in
the case of people as in the case of dogs. Better
take the hint!
But, you may say, how is one
to acquire the proper suggestive manner? My answer
is that there is but one sure way, and that is to
begin to think out the part; visualize it; and act
it out. In other words, if you wish to convey a
suggestive manner of confidence, you must begin to
think "Confidence" from morning until
night.
And you must also begin to
visualize "Confidence" when you have the chance to
do so--that is, you must make a mental picture of
yourself as manifesting Confidence. And you must
also begin to act out the part.
Now about this "acting out," I
would say that I mean not only the "playing the
part" in your interviews with people, but I also
mean an actual series of rehearsals in
private, just as you would perform if you were
preparing to play a part on the stage, in public.
You must form a mental image
of how you would look and act if you were filled
with confidence, and were approaching people. You
will find that practice will improve you very much
in this way, and that you will soon acquire a
manner that will be like second-nature and will
really serve to give the suggestion of your manner
to others with whom you come in contact. And, more
than this, it will actually tend to build up
confidence in yourself.
Imagine yourself as
approaching strange people, and then act out the
part the best you know how, improving a little in
ease, and smoothness of action each day. Think of
how the actor on the stage impresses you--and then
remember that the manner was acquired by constant
practice, and work. And you may do the same, and
may manage to impress other people just as the
actor does you.
And what is true in the case
of "Confidence" is true regarding any character
that you wish to play. Any and all characters may
be played out in this way, and an appearance and
manner acquired which will give the suggestion to
others. I wish I could make you realize how much
there is in this method. If you could realize how
some men have used it to acquire qualities that
have enabled them to prey upon the public, you
would realize how important it might be for you
for legitimate and honorable use.
In this acting out, you must
remember that the practice will make you so
perfect that the part will appear natural when you
play it in public. But without practice, an
attempt to play it in public will make one
ridiculous.
Remember the illustration of
the real actor, and you will have the secret of
acting out. And also remember this, that in the
measure that you "throw your mind" into the part,
so will be your success. When you practice, you
must throw your mind into the acting, just as you
would if you were in earnest. It is the mind back
of it all, remember.
The second suggestive channel
or instrument is "the suggestive tone." This, too,
may be acquired by acting out. You must practice
until you are able to express your meaning with
"feeling" that all who hear may be impressed.
You should begin your practice
by choosing some simple words in everyday
use--"Good morning!" for instance. Try it now, and
see how roughly, clumsily and crudely you give the
morning greeting. Then try to imagine that you are
full of good cheer, energy, and brightness, and
then throw your feeling into your "good morning,"
and see how different it seems.
Practice this awhile and you
will soon acquire a natural, cheery, bright, and
invigorating tone when you say "good morning." You
will not need a teacher in elocution to tell you
how to do this.
Try to feel the part,
and you will express it naturally. Make your
feelings more flexible, and your tones will
reflect them. After you have mastered the simpler
terms of expression, work up to larger sentences,
and speeches. Try them on the chairs in your room,
in imagining that people are seated therein; speak
to them feelingly and with expression until you
acquire the art.
You will not realize how much
you may gain by such practice until you actually
try it. I wish that you could hear the testimony
of some people who have acquired this art.
There is nothing more
important in personal influence than a good
suggestive tone. Think of the people whom you
know, and then remember what an influence their
voices have on you. Not only the quality of the
voice, but the tone.
You readily recognize the
difference between the tone of the hesitating,
timid, self-doubting person, and that of the
confident, self-reliant individual. There is a
subtle vibration about the tone of the latter that
causes one to feel confidence and respect, and
which exacts obedience in a quiet, calm way,
devoid of bluster or rant.
If you will but think a
moment, you will see that much depends upon the
tone. You will see that when you say to a person,
"You can!" the tone in which you say
"can!" goes a long way toward producing the
response.
And so it is with the
suggestive tone, no matter what it is made to
express. It always impresses upon one that the
speaker using it means what he says. And
that is why many public men practice year after
year in mastering this instrument of
influence--the suggestive tone.
Again would I refer you to the
example of the actor--see how he manages to throw
feeling into his tone. And you may do
likewise, if you will but practice in earnest, and
throw your mind into the work. Think of
the thing you wish to express--visualize it-- and
then act it out in your tone.
You will be surprised at the
rapid progress that you will make. Remember
always, though, the tone is but the instrument of
expression of the mind back of it.
Many people make the mistake
of "speaking with the muscles instead of with
their nerves," as one writer has expressed it. In
other words, they seem to throw muscular force
into their tones, instead of nervous energy, and
in so doing they make a great mistake, for the
former has a dull, non-penetrating effect, whereas
the latter vibrates subtly and reaches the feeling
part of one's mind. Feel, feel, feel, when
you wish to speak impressively, and your tones
will reflect the same, and induce a corresponding
feeling in others.
The voice is a mighty
indicator of the mental state within. Excepting
the eye, no outward form of expression of
character responds so quickly and fully to the
inner mental state as the voice.
The voice and eye are the two
principal outward avenues of expression of the
mental states within, and both register the subtle
changes and degrees of the inner state. If you
will stop to think for a moment and consider the
different voices of the people you know, you will
see that in nearly every case the voice gives one
a clue to the character or prevailing mental
states of the speaker.
Not alone the quality of the
voice but the tone. Every reader knows the
difference between the tones of the hesitating,
timid, self-doubting person, and that of the
confident, self-reliant individual. In the tone of
the latter there is noticeable that peculiar
something that denotes power and authority, and
inspires attention, interest and respect, without
need of vulgar self-assertion or blustering
speech. Let us listen to the tones of our dynamic
individual.
First, it is under the control
of his will. It is loud or soft, as he wills it to
be-- it never runs away from him. If the person to
whom he is talking raises his voice to a strident
pitch, our individual does not follow suit. On the
contrary he puts a little more force into his
tone, but keeps the pitch the same, and before
long, by his will, in his evenly pitched tone, he
will actually force down the pitch of the other to
a normal degree.
I have seen many instances of
this fact, and have noticed that the temper of the
other person is toned down in accord with his
decreasing pitch of voice. A calm, even positive
tone, in which the will is apparent in
self-control and in forceful effect, will master
the tones of others pitched in a fiercer key; and
in the mastery of the voice of the other you will
often effect a mastery of his will. By making
captive the outer expression you often capture the
inner man.
There are two very good
reasons for one studying the voice of the dynamic
individual, as follows:
(1) Because it is by his voice
that he manages to make some of the most powerful
suggestions upon others; and
(2) because by the expression
in his voice, or rather the inner impulse causing
the vocal expression, he causes to flow out strong
mentative currents which affect and influence the
other person. So in its inner, and outer, aspects
the cultivation of the voice is quite desirable.
You will find that the dynamic
individual particularly if he is engaged in an
occupation necessitating his giving orders, and
directions, or advice, to others, has developed a
voice resembling in many details the "suggestive
voice" habitual to the practitioner of mental
suggestive therapeutics. The reason is plain.
Both the man of business
affairs and force, and the suggestionnist, have
accustomed themselves to speaking in a forceful,
firm, positive manner, and thus fairly "driving
home" their ideas expressed in words.
The man of affairs does not
know just why he does this, but his tone is the
outward expression of his forceful mental state.
And this is likewise true of the suggestionist,
although he may have deliberately cultivated the
suggestive tone at the beginning of his practice.
It is somewhat difficult to
correctly define and explain the suggestive tone,
although if one once hears it he will never forget
it. But I will try my best to make it plain to you
here. In the first place, the suggestive tone is
fairly charged with the mental idea back of the
words.
Each word has an inner
meaning, and the suggestive tone carries this idea
with it, so that the hearer gets the full
mentative benefit and influence of it. Do not
imagine that this tone is theatrical, or tragic,
or unnatural. It is none of these. It is a
forceful, natural tone. Its expression is that of
"being in earnest" and meaning just what you are
saying.
You know how you would speak
if you were earnestly telling someone to do some
important thing, upon which much depended. Well,
that's the tone, modified of course by the
particular circumstances and necessities of each
case. It must be in earnest--must be more or less
"intense"--must have focused in it the "feeling"
behind it, in such a way as to awaken in the mind
of the hearer the feeling back of the words.
The voice of the dynamic
individual is flexible, and adaptable to any mood
or phase of feeling that he wishes to induce in
his hearers. It may be positive and masterful,
along the lines of suggestion by direct command,
or authority. Or it may be subtle and insinuating,
along the lines of suggestion by association or
imitation.
Or it may assume a
teacher-like tone, along the lines of suggestion
by repetition, in which the statement is made in a
quiet, convincing way, as a teacher makes his
statements to his class, the repetition of which
brings conviction to the mind of the hearer. Or it
may take on that peculiar caressing tone which is
noticed in magnetic men of a certain type, who
allure, charm, fascinate and draw to them other
people by reason of their subtle power of
"charming."
This power, which finds its
expression largely in the voice, always reminds me
of a female leopard or tiger, for the feline is
mingled with the feminine in a peculiar way. This
tone of the voice can be best described as
"caressing"--when it is exhibited by one well
versed in its use every word seems to be a soft
caress, and has a peculiar soothing effect upon
the hearer, lulling his will to sleep and opening
his emotive mentality to the suggestions and
mentative currents of the speaker.
In short, the dynamic
individual, in his use of the voice, has acquired
to a certain degree the art of the actor and
orator. He is able to express "feeling," real or
assumed, by his voice, so that a corresponding
mental state is set up in the minds of his
hearers. And one may acquire this art. By practice
a vibrant, resonant, expressive voice may be
cultivated, and used, too, with the greatest
effect in personal magnetism.
As an instance of this let me
cite you the case of Nathan Sheppard, the
well-known lecturer and authority on public
speaking. Mr. Sheppard relates that when he first
made up his mind to devote himself to public
speaking he was told by his tutors that he would
be a perfect failure in such a profession,
because, as he says "My articulation was feeble;
my organs of speech were inadequate; if I would
screw up my little mouth it could be put into my
mother's thimble." These facts were enough to
discourage any man, but Sheppard rose above them,
and determined to apply his will to the task of
conquering these disadvantages, and mastering the
subject of public speaking. And he succeeded
marvelously.
By pure will-power he, as he
says,'' increased my voice tenfold; doubled my
chest, and brought my unoratorical organs somewhat
in subjection to my will." He became one of the
best public speakers of his time. So there is hope
for all of you, if you will but manifest
persistency and earnestness in your application of
the will.
The third suggestive channel
is "the suggestive word." I may be able to explain
this more clearly when I call your attention to
the fact that each word is a crystallized thought.
In every word there is an imprisoned thought. And
when you lodge a word in the mind of another
person, the crystal covering is dissolved, and the
released thought manifests itself.
And, this being so, it becomes
important for one to carefully choose the
crystallized thoughts, or words, which he wishes
to implant in the mind of another. You should
study words until you are able to distinguish
between those which carry a live, active,
feeling thought, and those less strong.
Take the word ''strong'' for
instance. Does it not make you feel strength when
you hear it forcibly and feelingly pronounced?
Take the word "kind," and see what
feelings it arouses in you. Pronounce the words "lion"
and "lamb," and see the different
feelings you experience from the differing sounds.
Take the word "crash," and
see
how it suggests the crashing, crunching, tearing,
startling thing for which it stands. Compare the
sound of the words "rough" and "smooth"--and
you will see what I mean.
The only way that I can point
out to you to acquire the use of suggestive words
is to study words themselves. Listen to the words
used by others, and note their effect on you. Take
a small dictionary and run over its pages, and you
will soon have a collection of good, strong,
effective terms for handy use when occasion
demands.
A man does not have to be
''highly educated'' in the usual sense of that
term, in order to use strong, suggestive words.
Some instinctively choose vital words, charged
with feeling, and such make their words felt.
Think over this matter.
In the use of all the three
suggestive instruments, or channels, remember that
the object is to make others feel the
mental state you are expressing. This is the whole
thing in a nutshell.