16 Using the Mentative Instruments
In
the use of the eyes for the purpose of conveying
mentative currents, you should always remember that
the feeling is the real power behind these
currents of power, and that the brain is the dynamo
from which the currents originate. The brain, you
know, is the great transformer, or converter of the
mentative energy, and acts just as does a dynamo in
the direction of sending forth great waves of power.
Consequently,
if you wish to send out mentative currents for the
purpose of inducing feeling in others, you must
first have feeling generated in your mental dynamo.
It
will be well for two people to practice the eye
exercises together, but in the absence of a friend
in whom you have confidence, you may obtain
excellent results by practicing before your friendly
mirror. In either case, you must first arouse in
your mind the feeling that you wish to express in
mentative currents. Put your feeling into your
glance, and it will be felt.
EXERCISE
1.
Look into the eyes of
your friend (or your own in the mirror) and then say mentally:
"I am stronger than you." Throw into your glance
as much of the feeling of strength as you can.
EXERCISE
2
. Say mentally: "I am
more Positive than you—I am outgazing you," throwing
as much positivity as possible into your gaze, the
same being inspired, of course, by our feeling.
EXERCISE
3
. Say, and feel: "You
are afraid of me—I am making you feel my strength,"
throwing the feeling into your gaze.
After
you
have acquired the faculty of making your strength
felt by above exercises you may use the same upon
other people when the occasion renders it advisable.
If you are addressed by some person whom you think
is trying to master you mentatively, or whose strong
influence you wish to ward off, you may use the
above method on him.
As
a rule the person who is doing the talking has a
slight advantage over the listener, all else being
equal. The speaker is the more positive because he
is expressing more power. But you may counteract
this, if you are the listener, by simply sending him
a glance, accompanied by the feeling of "I
scatter your force into bits—you cannot affect
me!"
In
resisting an attack of this sort, keep your mouth
closed, with the jaws tight, for this "bite" denotes
strength and firmness, and brings into play the
parts of the brain manifesting these qualities, and
thus charges your mentative currents with these
feelings. At the same time gaze firmly and steadily
into the eyes of the other, using the "Dynamic
Gaze."
I
would bid you remember that the person standing
has an advantage over the one sitting. Avoid
the sitting position when the other person is
standing—do not give him this advantage, but take it
yourself if you can.
In
speaking to persons and requesting them to do
something, you should accompany the verbal request
by a mental command. For instance, if you say "You
will do this for me, won't you"(this is the
suggestive form of questioning, remember) you should
accompany the question with the command (made
mentally) with the proper glance, "You shall do
this."
If
you are the person requested to do something that
you do not wish to do, you should answer, "No, I do
not care to do this," or "I do not see my way clear
to do it," or "I am unable to oblige you," etc.,
etc., but at the same time you must send the mental
answer, with its accompanying glance, "I will not do
it, and you cannot make me."
A
well-known teacher along these lines several years
ago, taught his pupils to gaze into the eyes of
persons whom they wished to affect, at the same time
saying mentally: "I am looking at you. I am
looking through your eyes into your brain. My will
power is stronger than yours. You are under my
control. I will compel you to do what I wish. You
must do what I say. You shall do this. Do it
at once. "It will readily be seen that this will
generate a powerful mentative current, if there is a
sufficiently strong feeling—will and desire—behind
it.
But
right here I shall give you an antidote for this
kind of influence. In all cases where you are
attacked mentally in this way you may dissolve the
force by a positive denial.
The
positive denial is the powerful force that
scatters into tiny bits the force directed against
one. It is a destructive agent, just as is
the positive statement a constructive or
creative one. One who understands the scientific use
of this destructive force may undo the mentative
work of others, to a surprising degree. By a
strong, positive denial, you may scatter and
disintegrate any mentative influence directed
against you.
This
formula will give you a general idea of it. Suppose
that you are repelling a statement such as given
above. In that case you should say mentally, accompanying
it with the proper glance, with feeling back of it:
"I deny positively your power over me. I
deny it out of existence. I will not do your
bidding, and I deny your right and power to
command me. I deny your power, and I affirm
my own."
You
may cultivate this power to use the positive denial
by practicing on an imaginary person whom you may
suppose is trying to influence you. Imagine the
strong, positive person before you, trying to
influence you and then start in to practice the
positive denial on him, until you feel that you have
beaten him off, and have sent him flying away in
retreat.
These
imaginary
mental battles will develop a great power of
mentative resistance in you, and I advise you
strengthen yourselves along these lines, if you feel
that you are weak. You may improve on above
exercise, by imagining that after your enemy is in
full retreat you follow him up and pour statement
after statement into him, changing your position
from a defender into an attacking force.
These
imaginary rehearsals will do more for one than
people think possible. They are like stage
rehearsals that make perfect the actors. They are
the fencing lessons from which the swordsman gains
skill, and strength.
Practice,
practice,
PRACTICE makes perfect in everything—in mentative
work as well as physical. There are good
psychological and occult reasons behind this method
and practice, but I shall not enter upon that field
at present—this book is intended to give you the
"how" of the subject, rather than the "why."
In
personal conversation with another you will find it
of the greatest value to see as clearly as possible
a mental picture, chart or map, of what you are
saying to him. By so doing you will impress most
forcibly upon his mind that which you wish him to
see, and feel. In this statement is compressed the
secret of effective speaking.
In
the degree that you see and feel the thought that
you are expressing in words, will be the degree of
impression made upon, and mentative induction
produced in, the other person. The secret of course
lies in the power of visualization.
You
may find an evidence of your increasing mentative
influence by trying the psychological experiment of
"willing" people to move this way or that way, by
gazing intently at them.
In
this experiment it is not necessary for you to gaze
into their eyes. Gazing at their back, preferably at
the upper part of the neck, at the base of the
brain, will answer. You may try "willing" persons to
look around on the street, or in public places, etc.
Or you may "will" that they turn to the right or
left of you, when approaching each other on the
street. Or, in stores you may "will" that a certain
clerk, from out of a number, will step forward to
wait upon you.
These
and
many similar experiments have an interest to the
majority of students, and are accomplished with
comparative ease, after sufficient practice. The
whole theory and practice consists of a steady gaze,
and the mental command, and will, that the person
will act so-and-so, together with the earnest
expectation that he will obey the command, and the
mental picture of his doing so. That is all there is
to it.
In
the use of the eye as a mentative instrument,
remember first, last, and all the time, that desire
and will are the phases of the mentative energy, and
that in the degree that desire is kindled, and will
is exerted, so will be the power expressed by
yourself, and impressed upon others.
Read
this
book over a number of times, until you have fully
grasped the underlying principles. Then commit its
exercises and instructions to memory. Then practice
frequently, and perfect yourself in the methods
pointed out, until you render them "second nature."
You
will be conscious of a gradual growth and
development, along the lines of mentative power and
influence. The flame of dynamic mentation once
lighted, it will never die out—tend the flame
carefully, keep the wick trimmed clean, and fill the
lamp with oil, and it will ever burn bright and emit
heat and light and power.
The
last mentative instrument mentioned in a previous
chapter is "the touch." There was a time, in my
early stages of experimentation and psychological
research, when I laughed at the idea of the touch
playing any real part in the work of mental
influence. Of course I saw the effect of the touch
in certain phases of psychological work, but I
believed that it was all "merely suggestion," but I
soon learned that the touch was really a most potent
instrument of mentative energy.
I
now explain it by the idea of the nerves being like
the wires upon which the electric current travels.
The brain is the dynamo, or converter of the energy,
and while the latter travels in waves and currents
without any wires (just as do the waves of the
wireless telegraph) still if there is a wire to
be had, then it follows the lines of least
resistance and takes advantage of the nerve-wire.
Certain
parts
of the body have nerve-cells very highly developed
in them—are in fact miniature brains. In the cases
of some persons of sensitive and trained touch,
there exist little clusters of nerve cells at the
ends of the fingers that act like miniature brains.
The lips are also highly developed in this respect,
as the well known phenomena of "kissing" evidence.
The fingers and hand are excellent polar mediums for
conveying the mentative energy that pours down over
the nerves from the brain, and through which it
passes to the other person.
The
use of the touch of the hands as a channel for
conveying mentative energy depends greatly upon the
development of the hands by the individual. Those
who understand this matter, develop the conductivity
of the hands by "treating" them as follows: Think of
your hands as excellent conductors of mentative
energy, and imagine that you can feel the energy
pouring down the nerves of your arms, and out of
your hands, obeying your will, when you shake hands
with people.
You
will soon develop your hands to such a degree that
some sensitive persons will actually "feel" the
current passing into them. Always accompany the
passage of the current with the thought or feeling
that you wish to induce in the other person, just as
you do when you use the "Dynamic Gaze." In fact, the
gaze and the hand-clasp should be used together,
when possible, for by so doing you double the
effect.
When
you shake hands with a person throw mind and
feeling into it, and do not fall into the
mechanical, lifeless method so common among people.
Throw your feeling down to your hand, and at the
same time make a mental command or statement
appropriate to the case. For instance, grasp the
person's hand with feeling, and interest, saying,
mentally, at the same time: "You like me."
Then,
when
you draw you hand away, if possible let your fingers
slide over the palm of his hand in a caressing
manner, allowing his first finger to pass between
your thumb and forefinger, close up in the crotch of
the thumb. Practice this well, until you can perform
it without thinking of it—that is, make it your
natural way of shaking hands. You will find that
this method of shaking hands will open up a new
interest in people toward you, and in other ways you
will discover its advantage. You never knew a
"fascinating" person who did not have a good
hand-clasp. It is a part of the fascinating
personality.
There
are
many persons, well grounded on the psychological
principles underlying the subject, who use the hands
as a medium for mentative energy, without shaking
hands. For instance, they sit near the other person
and place their hands so that their fingers will
point toward him, at the same time willing that the
current flow through the fingers and toward the
other.
They
also use their hands in conversation so as to have
the tips of their fingers pointing toward the other.
This last plan becomes highly effective when used
with the appropriate gestures, for it is akin to the
mesmeric "pass" of the hands. In this connection I
would say beware of the person who is always trying
to put his hands on you—beware of the ''pawing
over'' process.
Avoid
it in the ordinary way, if possible, or else
deliberately practice the positive denial toward
the person, holding the idea and mental statement
that "I deny the power of your magnetism—I
scatter it by my denial."
In
concluding this chapter, I would especially caution
young women, and older ones for that matter, against
allowing men to be familiar with them in the
direction of "holding hands," or similar practices.
Not only does this "familiarity breed contempt" but
there are good psychological reasons why the
practice is to be condemned.
You
have seen what part the hands play in "magnetizing"
as it is called, and is it not clearly discernible
how one may use the hands in this "petting," and all
that sort of thing, in order to psychologically
affect another person? I am not speaking now of the
caresses indulged in by honorable true lovers—for
all the talk in the world would not change that sort
of thing—but I am alluding to the indiscriminate
"pawing over" on the part of strange men that some
young girls allow.
There
is a danger in this sort of thing, and I want you to
know it. If you have daughters, or young female
relatives, warn them against this thing, and tell
them the reason why.
And
the same thing is true of the man who is always
patting other men on the shoulder, or resting his
arm around them, or else "taking hold of them" in a
friendly caressing way during a conversation. Such
men may not know the psychology of the thing, but
they have found out that this sort of "patting up"
makes other men more impressible, and amenable to
their influence, and so they practice it. Make them
stop it, either by moving away, or by positive
denial.
Now,
once more, remember the power of this positive
denial as a disperser, and disintegrator of
adverse influence. If this book taught you nothing
else, it would still be "worthwhile" to you because
of this one point of instruction. For this positive
denial is a mentative armor that will protect you—a
mentative sword that will defend you—a mentative
lightning flash that will clear the mental
atmosphere.
Learn
the secret of positive statement, and positive
denial, and you are clad in an invulnerable armor
and are armed with the weapon of power—and so you
may, like the "Warrior Bold" go "gaily to the fray."
But,
after
all, the secret of influence in our dynamic
individual lies in his mental states. The outer
forms are but reflections of the inner. If you will
cultivate the connection between your mind and the
great Universal Will— the Universal Mind-Power—then
your will becomes so strong that the outward
expressions will come of themselves.
But
in mounting the first steps of attainment, it
becomes important for the student to pay attention
to the outward characteristics, because by so doing
he makes a clearer mental path for the acquisition
of the desired mental states.
By
the very laws of mental suggestion he is able to
imitate these outward expressions, and thus induce
in himself the mental states, which, in time, become
habitual. I do not mean that one should allow the
suggestion of the other's appearance to move him in
this way—this is not the idea.
What
I mean is that one may by autosuggestion so
reproduce the outward characteristics associated
with a desired mental state or, quality, and by
acting them out actually materialize into reality
the mental states themselves.
Remember
the
rule—mental states take form in action—and action
reproduces their associated mental states. It is a
rule that works both ways. The voice makes the
phonographic record—and the latter reproduces the
sound. Remember this illustration, for it will help
you to get the right conception of the psychological
law underlying the phenomenon.
There
is
a certain point to which I would direct your
attention at this stage. I refer to the well-known
psychological fact that "mental states express
themselves in physical action." Every mental state
has its associated physical action. And these
actions, when perceived by another person, are apt
to induce similar mental states in that person,
along the lines of mental suggestion.
But
there is another law, less understood by the public,
and that is that "the manifestation of physical
action tends to induce in the mind of the person
performing it, the mental states generally
associated with the production of the action."
Let
us take a common example, to illustrate the
operation of these two related laws. Let us suppose
that you are holding a mental state of anger,
fright, combativeness, etc. In that case you will
find that your brows will frown; your jaws will be
fixed in a savage "bite," and slightly protruded;
and your hands will be clenched—the mental state has
taken form in physical action. Very well, then—you
all recognize this fact.
But
there is the law reversed. If you will frown deeply;
clench your fists savagely; fix your jaws in a
fighting trim, etc., and will maintain that physical
attitude for five minutes, at the same time allowing
it to manifest in your walk, etc. (as it surely
will) without interference, you will find yourself
growing into a mental state of annoyance,
combativeness, etc., and if you keep it up long
enough, you will be "mad in earnest." So true is
this that if you carry the thing far enough, and run
into someone else, you will be very apt to "get into
a row" with him.
And,
still more remarkable is the fact, the person that
you "run into" will be very apt to take up the
mental suggestion of your manner, and will also
"feel fighty." It would not take much to stir up
trouble between the two of you.
And,
still
more remarkable, if you continue this physical
attitude until it produces the mental state, you
will find that you are inducing similar mental
states in those around you, by the agency of
mentative currents. So you see the close connection
between physical action, mental states, suggestion,
and telementation! They act, and re-act upon each
other.
What
has been said of the mental state of anger applies
equally to any intense feeling or mental state. Like
begets like, along all the lines mentioned.
Now,
all
this means that the man who is possessed of a strong
mental state will manifest, unconsciously, the
physical actions which will affect others, along the
lines of mental suggestion—he will not have to study
the question of what suggestions to use, providing
he "feels" sufficiently strong to automatically
manifest the actions.
But
when a man does not "feel" sufficiently strong to
manifest the suggestive actions, he may produce the
same effect by "acting the part" (without being
actually involved in it) by first reproducing the
physical actions, which will thus induce a
sufficiently strong mental state to manifest itself
both along the line of suggestion, and also along
the line of personal magnetism.
Every
good actor induces feeling in you in this way, along
both these lines. And you may do the same if you
want—many dynamic people are doing it every day.
On
this subject, so far as I have gone, I have given
you a most important secret of psychological
influence, in a plain, practical way—so simple in
fact that there is a risk of many of you entirely
overlooking its importance. Better go back over this
part of the lesson again—many times—until you are
able to catch its inner meaning, and are able to
read between its lines. It's quite worthwhile, I
assure you.
Of
course, some of my kind critics will take me to task
for teaching this "acting out" idea. They will call
it "inculcating principles of deceit," etc., etc.,
and will then go on their way admiring "magnetic"
personalities, and regretting the absence of "tact"
in other persons who have rubbed them the wrong way.
I have noticed that these hyper-critical people are
generally hypo-critical as well.
I
have known many good men who were not "dynamic," and
the world "turned them down," and often "jumped all
over them." And I have known quite a number, not
quite so good, who possessed quite a goodly degree
of dynamic force, and the world received them with
open arms, and showered its praises and rewards upon
them.
But
this does not mean that one cannot be "good" and
"dynamic" at the same time. There are plenty of
"good" men who are highly "dynamic"—and there are
plenty of "bad" men equally so. And there are plenty
both good and bad, who lack "dynamic-force."
But,
note
this fact, please—that the good men, and the bad
men, who are highly "dynamic," generally manage to
"get there," along their own line of life. And both
the good and bad who lack "dynamic-force" are
generally stranded along the wayside. Dynamic-force
is neither good nor bad—it is a natural force—and is
used by all. In this respect it is like any other
natural force.
And,
then
again, this book is not for the purpose of teaching
the "bad" use of "dynamic-force," rather than the
"good." It states the principles and the law, as
they are. It is true that the bad man may take
advantage of the law and use it for bad purposes;
but so may the good man take advantage of it and
make himself a greater power for good.
"Dynamic-force"
is
just as effective in the "preacher" as it is in the
"confidence man"—and just as effective in the
salesman and business man, and everyday person, as
it is in either the preacher or the confidence man.
It is a natural quality, and has nothing to do with
"good and bad"—any more than has elocution,
oratorical ability, or personal appearance.
If
the good folk prefer to leave this important subject
for the bad folk, that is their own concern, not
mine. Personally, I feel like the old preacher, who
was remonstrated with by some hide-bound old
parishioner regarding certain musical innovations
that had been introduced in the church service.
The
old preacher looked kindly at the old veteran
"conservative" of the flock, and said: "Well,
brother, it may strike you in a different way, but
to me it seems wrong to allow the Devil to
monopolize all the good music—I believe in giving
the Lord his share of it." And I say ''Amen!" to
this idea.
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